We each have TWO responsibilities as part of the Work it Out! process
1. Get as much as you can personally from the Work it Out! process. Build your learning and grow your support network…
2. Help every other person in the group or those you work with. Be interested in others, suggest ideas, offer help, make links, chat and be positive...
Working with others
When we only think about ourselves we tend to play the same tape over and over in our head.
I am no good at.... I will never find work in …. I will never lose weight.... I can't get the sort of job I want... Nobody will hire me....
However, when we work with others and try to help them, we can find ourselves being more proactive and positive. We can suggest options and ideas that the person may not have thought of...
Could you....? Maybe John and you could link up and see if....? Why don't you look at....? Would it be possible to....?
We shift into a consultancy / project helper mode as we learn about others, find out what they are trying to do, see where they are stuck - and then suggest ways forward.
By taking responsibility for others we free up our brain to explore more, to take on new challenges, to become a problem solver and to build our success in new ways. All of this in turn un;ocks our own thinking about how we may have seen our own situation.
Interacting with others we meet
There is this simple four part process that we can apply to every conversation and every person that we meet. This enables us to be implementing an empowerment and improvement strategy for each person we meet.
This is a four stage process – ask, listen, positive feedback and encouragement.
The first part of this is to ask - for us to be genuinely interest in what’s happening with the person we are speaking with.
Ask What are you up to? What’s happening with you? What's your ideas for workpieces? What's your priotity at the moment?
Don’t ask questions like 'how are you?' that may give one word answers – because you’re probably get ‘fine’ or ‘okay’.
Give the person some space and time to talk. Be genuinely interested in them. Do not start talking about you or your situation. Respond appropriately with e.g., concern, excitement or understanding.
3. Positive feedback
The third stage is to be positive and enthusiastic – as appropriate. That sounds great. That’s amazing. I’m so delighted. Well done you. Smile. This is positive reinforcement or temporary just the person to go on and build upon their success.
Every conversation we have is effectively a golden seed. We can either encourage or discourage. We can either help or not we can either show kindness or not
The final stage of any interaction then is to encourage. So here you are trying to help the person to build on what they have done or what they are trying to do. So it could be a simple keep going, asking about what the next stages, asking if you can help in anyway, and you might even have one or two ideas, and suggestions to help.
As a result of the conversation the person should be in a positive frame of mind . You in turn will have another story, another scenario and another link to build upon.
EXERCISE - Creating workpieces with others
Start some discussions with others. Find out how they are, what they are doing or what their current challenge is. See if you can suggest some ideas to help them. Explore the possibility of creating a workpiece together. Arrange a a follow-up chat.